Do I Avoid Conflict?

The last few days have been struggles for me in the “controlling my emotions” area. I live in the bible belt where people have manners but grew up in New Jersey where we don’t. Because o this, my nature is to tell everyone about themselves because they need to hear it. Down here though, they are quite the opposite and 7 years in the country has calmed this down a good bit. Still, I think that people here let TOO many things go. Or should I say they hold on to the issues but don’t address them. It makes it very hard for me to be me.

Romans 12:18 says, “If it is possible, so far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”fea25d182589316e318b0667d8dce5a6

Now I have had conversations with people who believe that this verse means, “don’t say anything so you don’t want to start a fight.” I can see where that came from but I am not so sure that is true. How can you “DO ALL THAT YOU CAN” if you aren’t doing anything?

James 3:17-18 says, “But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace-loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.  And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness”

I don’t believe that avoiding a fight is the answer. How can you plant seeds of peace without actually doing or saying anything? You have to approach the situation. It’s all about HOW you do it. Do you pray first? Do you let God lead you? Do you show respect to the other person because they are a human being and deserve it? Do you consider their feelings or do you just blurt out what’s on your mind at the moment of frustration? Are you coming to them out of LOVE or out of anger or jealousy? Do you even care what their response is? Or do you just need to yell at someone? Remember, these are humans and God loves them too. It’s our job to PLANT Seeds, peaceful & respectful ones.

Try to confront your problems head on today.Pray and ask God to show you things through his eyes. Ask Him to tame your own personal emotions and love each other as He does. It’s definitely not the EASY route but it is the only effective one!


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