Saying No When You Really Want To Say Yes
One of my all-time favorite books is The Best Yes, by Lysa Terkeurst. Before reading this book, I would have told you that was pretty good at deciding what I should or shouldn’t, commit myself to. I felt that I was in touch with my abilities and knew when I was overloading it (not that that knowledge stopped me from adding on another thing!) After reading just the first few pages, I knew I was wrong. I wonder if you are missing it too.
Some Questions to Ponder:
What’s the difference between your BEST YES and just a regular old Yes?
How can you tell if you are supposed to be using your BEST yes?
If something isn’t your BEST yes (just a plain old yuppers), than does that mean that it will turn out badly?
What is a Best Yes exactly? In the short, a Best Yes can be said when you know your part of the big plan, and you stick to it. You must know what you’re focus is supposed to be on, what God’s instructions for you are. Then STICK TO THAT PATH AND DON’T WAIVER FROM IT! This may get hard. You may have to choose between 2 good things. You have to make sure that you are honoring your “Best Yes.”
This book is PACKED full of tweet-worthy quotes.
That means that you may have to say NO to things that are could be good because YOU can’t possibly give it your that are could be good because YOU can’t possibly give it your BEST, since it isn’t what you are supposed to be doing.
Don’t take decisions lightly. It may not seem like it at the time, but they will have a huge impact on your future!
but they will have a huge impact on your future!
We have to make sure that we are making excuses for our over extending of ourselves. Don’t use the excuse to love others when you are really just trying to make everyone happy with you.
Overwhelmed schedule = an underwhelmed soul.
the thought of that makes my heart ache. I don’t want to be
so busy because I have said yes to everything that has come my way.
I don’t want a broken soul.
So when you are standing at the door of a decision, how do you know what choice is the BEST YES?
1) Use discernment. DO NOT CONFUSE DISCERNMENT WITH INSTINCT. Instinct is based on a gut feeling, while discernment comes from truth. Rationalize those feelings and acquire knowledge that will let you make a decision based on DISCERNMENT.
2) Judge all things based on this question:
Could this fit physically, emotionally, mentally & financially?
(in relation to your ‘plan & staying on your path’)
3) Practice these 2 steps every day, with every decision.
4) Weigh your expectations. Is it possible for you to accomplish? Literally. Or are you setting yourself up to fail? It is OK to not be able to do everything. Really.
Or are you setting yourself up to fail? It is OK to not be able to do everything. Really. Knowing and respecting your own limitations shows obedience to God.
Knowing and respecting your own limitations shows obedience to God.
5) Learn how to do it properly. There are ways to say “No” without being hateful. Are some resources that help you with finding the proper and HONEST words to use. Be confident in your No because you are trying to be committed to your Best Yes.
Don’t over schedule yourself. Don’t say Yes when know you are at your limit. Keep your eyes focused on your purpose confirmed by God and measure everything up to this. Don’t wear Honor God and yourself by saying no when you really want to say yes.
Here’s one more quote for you 🙂
Here are some links to resources for the book The Best Yes, By Lysa Tereursk. I highly recommend picking up a copy!